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FOLLOWING CASE IS FROM THE TITLE 'SOLVE THE CASE' OF 'AUDE SAPERE' HOMOEOPATHIC JOURNAL


A 31-year-old lady came with a list of complaints written on a piece of paper. Allergic cold, sneezing, migraine, mouth ulcers, flatulence, swelling of arms, neck stiffness, acidity, hair fall, dandruff, pyorrhea.


"I am overweight. My mother & grandmother have diabetes. Is it hereditary? I feel very sleepy and do not feel like opening my eyes. I also suffer from breathlessness for which I take a pump. Recently, moles have increased on my face. Are they due to tension? Earlier, my face was very clear. I feel my weight has also increased. Is it due to thyroid? Please do my complete check up. As I stay at Panvel, I can’t come very often for a follow up. My eyes burn and I feel as if something is moving in my nerves. Stomach remains bloated and heavy even when I don’t eat.

Mentally I have lot of stress. There has not been single day I have not wept. My husband, sister-in-laws, mother-in-law trouble me so much that I don’t get sleep. Husband doesn’t behave well with me. We are staying separate. He and his family have lots of money. They have taught him and made him narrow minded. He has a problem with me. Whatever I do or wherever I go, his family teaches him against me. So our relations have never been cordial. Because of this reason, I stayed at my mother’s place for 2 months. I have been married for so many years and not a single day has passed without a quarrel or a fight. From the day I got married till today, the atmosphere in the house has not changed. I have got two kids and their future is my concern. Many a times I have left and gone to my mother’s place. We stay separate but still there is no peace at home. We have got a shop and his two brothers are not as clever as him, but we don’t own the shop. Even the house where we are staying is not ours. They have wealth but there is no peace. He doesn’t talk to me for months and quarrels with me. He talks nonsense about me in front of anyone. He has spoiled my name in society."

Dr.: "How do you manage?"

Pt.: "I have to! I have got two kids. I tolerate a few things and I speak up on a few occasions. Amongst the family members, I am most talented, smart but still he doesn’t feel so. He believes more in his elder sister-in-law. He says 'I can even die for her, I can’t stay without her. I will take a separate room for her and you stay separate." He will sit beside her and never bother about me whether I have had my food or I am dead or alive. He even asked me to abort once. For the last 3 to 4 years, the situation in the house has worsened so much that it is not worth staying there."

Dr.: "How do you manage?"

Pt.: "I have to manage. We are from Marwadi community and I don’t want to spoil my name in it. I don’t even want to take divorce. I don’t want to marry again. I have to think about my children too. I had a word about it in the community, but since they are wealthy, the community follows them. There is no one to listen to my problem."

Dr.: "What is his problem with you?"

Pt.: "I don’t understand, sometimes he appreciates me. His sisters see to it that we always fight. I feel the fight is all over money."

My mama also tried to talk to him, but he is not bothered about his name being spoiled. He has got the best wife but still he has spoiled my name in the community. I have not troubled anyone, I don’t talk nonsense. Our community is narrow-minded. I am not allowed to do anything, whereas his brothers’ wives can do anything which is always welcomed. I can’t say anything about them. They are everything to him. He says everything belongs to them which I can’t tolerate. At my mother’s place, the atmosphere is very free. My mother-in-law abuses me asking me to leave, they don’t need me. I cannot tolerate nonsense. There is something called self-respect.

My mama took me to my parents. My husband came to take me back home. I asked him ‘If you don’t want me, why have you come to take me?’ He says sorry, behaves well for a few days and again the same story repeats. His brothers and sister-in-laws teach him something. They have spoiled my family life. My daughter’s studies suffered when I was at my mother’s place. This doesn’t bother him either."

Dr.: "What do you do when he talks to you in such a manner?"

Pt.: "Nothing, I just weep for the whole day and tell my mother, father and brother about it."

Dr.: "Don’t you say anything to your husband?"

Pt.: "He doesn’t listen. There is no use talking to him. He doesn’t have brain."

Dr.: "So you are tolerating him?"

Pt.: "Yes, I have to, till I survive!"

Dr.: "Is there no one who can understand you?"

Pt.: "No one, all family members are same. I am different. They are all expert in telling lies. I have not been taught by my father to lie. They lie about me, which I can’t tolerate. I feel like crying. Why do you spoil my name for something I have not done?"

Dr.: "Do you say anything when they malign you?"

Pt.: "I tell him if doesn’t want to stay with me, then he can leave me. I will live my life the way I want."

Dr.: "Do you fight with him?"

Pt.: "No I don’t, I tolerate. If I fight like him, what will be the difference between me and him? The problem is the family’s behavior is not good. There is no one to support me, not even my husband.

Dr.: How do you manage your work?"

Pt.: "I have to work even if I am not well. Otherwise, he abuses me. Doctor, my tension should reduce, now I am tired."

Dr.: "Tired? Are you accepting defeat?" "vki gkj xbZ gSa\"

Pt.: "No I want to fight. If I lose, I will spoil my children’s future. He should realize that I am nothing less than him. I will tolerate, whatever way he troubles, I will not leave him. I will not allow him to marry again. He has spoiled my life. He feels he can get married again. If he spends 10 to 20 lacks, he can marry any woman in the community. Before marriage, I didn’t like him when I saw him. I had refused him, but my father saw the family, shop, and his intelligence. I did tell him (husband) that I had not liked him. He is still angry about that. He doesn’t even think that now we have two kids.

When his parents lie, he will not ask me but directly get angry upon me. I say it in front of everyone if I am not wrong. Why should I tolerate if I have not done any mistake? I can’t tolerate a lie. In Marwadi community, women stay in ‘ghunghat’ and don’t answer back. He feels I have spoiled his name in the community. I told him, I have been tolerating all this since last 10 years. If I talk about you only once, you feel offended. What about me when I have been tolerating it for the past 10 years?

Since a year, I have not gone out of the house. I don’t believe any one. I don’t talk to him. There is a limit to everything. Since 10 years till date I was hoping that some day he will improve, but he is still the same. I will not allow him to spoil my children’s future. I will change him too. He had seen 14 proposals before marriage. I asked him, what did he see in me and why did he reject them all? He obviously must have seen something in me, so he selected me………..


Remedy of this case: IGNATIA AMARA

This case was presented by DR JOEL A. SOLOMON. He had prescribed Ignatia Amara 30 to this patient by selecting following rubrics:

1. AILMENTS FROM - abused; after being - sexually

2. AILMENTS FROM - reprimands
3. AILMENTS FROM – quarrelling
4. AILMENTS FROM - position; loss of
5. AILMENTS FROM - grief
6. AILMENTS FROM – indignation
7. AILMENTS FROM - unhappiness
8. FEAR - social position; about his
9. MILDNESS - complaining; bears suffering, even outrage without
10. DISCONCERTED
11. EMBITTERED
12. DELUSIONS - unfair to him; that life is
13. ANGER - taciturnity; with